GoboWeb.com Networkhttps://www.goboweb.com/portals/151/en-usCopyright 2021 GoboWeb.com Network6/12/2021 11:02:36 AMWho gets to pay anyway?https://www.goboweb.com/portals/151/forums/256034761311111/Who_gets_to_pay_anyway<p>You are on a date (first or second, or twenty second). Do you expect him to pay for the dinner? Do you expect him to open the doors for you? Why?</p>GoboWeb.com Network9/2/2019 7:26:03 AM** Your DECISIVENESS inspires support.https://www.goboweb.com/portals/151/forums/424415782200000/_Your_DECISIVENESS_inspires_support<div class="MsoNormal" style="margin: 0in 0in 0pt; mso-layout-grid-align: none;" align="justify"><span style="font-size: 10pt; font-family: 'Courier New';">I saw this posted on the wall in the office with no author attached to it. I found this inspirational and wanted to share with you all.</span></div> <div class="MsoNormal" style="margin: 0in 0in 0pt; mso-layout-grid-align: none;" align="justify"><span style="font-size: 10pt; font-family: 'Courier New';"></span>&nbsp;</div> <div class="MsoNormal" style="margin: 0in 0in 0pt; mso-layout-grid-align: none;" align="justify"><span style="font-size: 10pt; font-family: 'Courier New';">**<b style="mso-bidi-font-weight: normal;"> Your DECISIVENESS inspires support.<!--?xml:namespace prefix = o ns = "urn:schemas-microsoft-com:office:office" ?--><o:p></o:p></b></span></div> <p class="MsoNormal" style="margin: 0in 0in 0pt; mso-layout-grid-align: none;" align="justify"><b style="mso-bidi-font-weight: normal;"><span style="font-size: 10pt; font-family: 'Courier New';"><o:p>&nbsp;</o:p></span></b></p> <p class="MsoNormal" style="margin: 0in 0in 0pt; text-indent: 0.5in; mso-layout-grid-align: none;" align="justify"><span style="font-size: 10pt; font-family: 'Courier New';">Face<span style="mso-tab-count: 1;">&nbsp; </span>it. Most people are not leaders. Most people are more than happy to follow someone who looks like he/she knows the way.<o:p></o:p></span></p> <p class="MsoNormal" style="margin: 0in 0in 0pt; mso-layout-grid-align: none;" align="justify"><span style="font-size: 10pt; font-family: 'Courier New';">The Reverend Billy Graham tells of a time early in his career when he arrived in a smal town to preach a sermon. Wanting to mail a letter, he asked a young boy where the post office was. When the boy had told him, Dr. Graham thanked him and said, &ldquo;If you&rsquo;ll corr to the <!--?xml:namespace prefix = st1 ns = "urn:schemas-microsoft-com:office:smarttags" ?--><st1:place w:st="on"><st1:placename w:st="on">Baptist</st1:placename> <st1:placetype w:st="on">Church</st1:placetype></st1:place> this evening, you can hear me telling everyone how to get to heaven.<o:p></o:p></span></p> <div class="MsoNormal" style="margin: 0in 0in 0pt; mso-layout-grid-align: none;" align="justify"><span style="font-size: 10pt; font-family: 'Courier New';">I don&rsquo;t think I&rsquo;ll be there, TI the boy said. &ldquo;You don&rsquo;t even know your way to the post office.&rdquo; People want to follow people who seem to know where they&rsquo;re going.</span></div> <div class="MsoNormal" style="margin: 0in 0in 0pt; mso-layout-grid-align: none;" align="justify"><span style="font-size: 10pt; font-family: 'Courier New';"><o:p></o:p></span>&nbsp;</div> <p class="MsoNormal" style="margin: 0in 0in 0pt; mso-layout-grid-align: none;" align="justify"><span style="font-size: 10pt; font-family: 'Courier New';">**<span style="mso-tab-count: 1;">&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp; </span><b style="mso-bidi-font-weight: normal;">DECISIVENESS INTIMIDATES the opposition.<o:p></o:p></b></span></p> <p class="MsoNormal" style="margin: 0in 0in 0pt; text-indent: 0.5in; mso-layout-grid-align: none;" align="justify"><span style="font-size: 10pt; font-family: 'Courier New';">When you come down quickly and confidently on one side of an issue, it takes your potential opponents off guard. They pause. They wonder if you know something they don know. And as a result, they often look elsewhere. They look for a different battle to fight.<o:p></o:p></span></p> <p class="MsoNormal" style="margin: 0in 0in 0pt; mso-layout-grid-align: none;" align="justify"><span style="font-size: 10pt; font-family: 'Courier New';"><o:p>&nbsp;</o:p></span></p> <div class="MsoNormal" style="margin: 0in 0in 0pt; text-indent: 0.5in; mso-layout-grid-align: none;" align="justify"><span style="font-size: 10pt; font-family: 'Courier New';">So take a look at yourself. Do you sound decisive? Or are you guilty of mushy language like, &ldquo;Well, maybe ... Perhaps . . . I&rsquo;ll think about it . . . or . . . It all depends?&rdquo; To be an effective leader, you&rsquo;ve got to be self-assured, confident, and decisive without being arrogant, harsh or closed-minded. When you achieve that balance, you rally enthusiastic support and limit frivolous resistance.</span></div> <div class="MsoNormal" style="margin: 0in 0in 0pt; text-indent: 0.5in; mso-layout-grid-align: none;" align="justify"><span style="font-size: 10pt; font-family: 'Courier New';"><o:p></o:p></span>&nbsp;</div> <p class="MsoNormal" style="margin: 0in 0in 0pt; mso-layout-grid-align: none;" align="justify"><span style="font-size: 10pt; font-family: 'Courier New';"><strong>** A MEDIOCRE decision made quickly can achieve better results than a good decision mad slowly.<o:p></o:p></strong></span></p> <p class="MsoNormal" style="margin: 0in 0in 0pt; mso-layout-grid-align: none;" align="justify"><span style="font-size: 10pt; font-family: 'Courier New';"><o:p>&nbsp;</o:p></span></p> <p class="MsoNormal" style="margin: 0in 0in 0pt; text-indent: 0.5in; mso-layout-grid-align: none;" align="justify"><span style="font-size: 10pt; font-family: 'Courier New';">That may sound strange, but it&rsquo;s true. If you make a decision and move in that direction, you immediately get a new perspective. And that new perspective often makes the &ldquo;right&rdquo; decision or the &ldquo;best&rdquo; decision all the more obvious.<o:p></o:p></span></p> <p class="MsoNormal" style="margin: 0in 0in 0pt; mso-layout-grid-align: none;" align="justify"><span style="font-size: 10pt; font-family: 'Courier New';">By contrast, if you&rsquo;re stuck in analysis paralysis, if you simply can&rsquo;t make a decision if you wait too long, you&rsquo;re often forced to do too little too late. Fear has gotten t best of you. And the best opportunities have probably passed you by.<o:p></o:p></span></p> <p class="MsoNormal" style="margin: 0in 0in 0pt; mso-layout-grid-align: none;" align="justify"><span style="font-size: 10pt; font-family: 'Courier New';">So what can you do about that fear . . . if you have it? I&rsquo;ve found four ways you can overcome the fear of decisiveness.<o:p></o:p></span></p> <p class="MsoNormal" style="margin: 0in 0in 0pt; mso-layout-grid-align: none;" align="justify"><span style="font-size: 10pt; font-family: 'Courier New';"><o:p>&nbsp;</o:p></span></p> <ol style="margin-top: 0in;" type="1"> <li class="MsoNormal" style="margin: 0in 0in 0pt; mso-layout-grid-align: none; mso-list: l0 level1 lfo1; tab-stops: list .5in;"> <div align="justify"><b style="mso-bidi-font-weight: normal;"><span style="font-size: 10pt; font-family: 'Courier New';">Make</span></b><span style="font-size: 10pt; font-family: 'Courier New';"> <b style="mso-bidi-font-weight: normal;">sure you understand the meaning of decisiveness.<o:p></o:p></b></span></div> </li> </ol> <p class="MsoNormal" style="margin: 0in 0in 0pt; mso-layout-grid-align: none;" align="justify"><span style="font-size: 10pt; font-family: 'Courier New';">It&rsquo;s not the same thing as being rash. It doesn&rsquo;t mean that you make an instant, uninformed decision. That would be silly. And if that&rsquo;s what you think decisiveness i no wonder you&rsquo;re fearful. When you&rsquo;re decisive, you make a decision. You take a stand. You follow a process that gives you the best decision in a timely manner. And I&rsquo;ll outline that process in next week&rsquo;s &ldquo;Tuesday Tip&rdquo;.<br style="mso-special-character: line-break;" /><br style="mso-special-character: line-break;" /></span></p> <p><o:p></o:p></p> <ol style="margin-top: 0in;" type="1" start="2"> <li class="MsoNormal" style="margin: 0in 0in 0pt; mso-layout-grid-align: none; mso-list: l0 level1 lfo1; tab-stops: list .5in;"> <div align="justify"><b style="mso-bidi-font-weight: normal;"><span style="font-size: 10pt; font-family: 'Courier New';">Accept the fear of rejection as normal.<o:p></o:p></span></b></div> </li> </ol> <p class="MsoNormal" style="margin: 0in 0in 0pt; mso-layout-grid-align: none;" align="justify"><span style="font-size: 10pt; font-family: 'Courier New';">If you&rsquo;re like most people, you want to be loved and accepted. Yet, in a leadership role, there will he many times when you must make difficult decisions that others will criticize. So be it. That&rsquo;s life. Clergyman William J. H. Boetcker said it very weli He said, &ldquo;It is better to displease the people by doing what you know is right, than tc temporarily please them by doing what you know is wrong.&rdquo;<br style="mso-special-character: line-break;" /><br style="mso-special-character: line-break;" /></span></p> <p><o:p></o:p></p> <ol style="margin-top: 0in;" type="1" start="3"> <li class="MsoNormal" style="margin: 0in 0in 0pt; mso-layout-grid-align: none; mso-list: l0 level1 lfo1; tab-stops: list .5in;"> <div align="justify"><b style="mso-bidi-font-weight: normal;"><span style="font-size: 10pt; font-family: 'Courier New';">Decide and act despite your fear.<o:p></o:p></span></b></div> </li> </ol> <p class="MsoNormal" style="margin: 0in 0in 0pt; mso-layout-grid-align: none;" align="justify"><span style="font-size: 10pt; font-family: 'Courier New';">Some people are struck numb by their fear of making the wrong decision or of making any decision whatsoever. They erroneously conclude that if they re fearful, they can&rsquo;t do anything. Baloney. Peel the fear and do it anyway. Make a decision. As Grog Romaneck, the coordinator of <st1:placename w:st="on">Prairie</st1:placename> <st1:placetype w:st="on">School</st1:placetype> in The Ralb, <st1:state w:st="on"><st1:place w:st="on">Illinois</st1:place></st1:state>, says, &ldquo;As a leader, if you choc not to make difficult decisions, you will face even sterner criticism from people who legi.timately question your leadership credentials.&rdquo;<o:p></o:p></span></p> <p class="MsoNormal" style="margin: 0in 0in 0pt; mso-layout-grid-align: none;" align="justify"><span style="font-size: 10pt; font-family: 'Courier New';"><o:p>&nbsp;</o:p></span></p> <ol style="margin-top: 0in;" type="1" start="4"> <li class="MsoNormal" style="margin: 0in 0in 0pt; mso-layout-grid-align: none; mso-list: l0 level1 lfo1; tab-stops: list .5in;"> <div align="justify"><b style="mso-bidi-font-weight: normal;"><span style="font-size: 10pt; font-family: 'Courier New';">Be wary of verbalizing your fears.<o:p></o:p></span></b></div> </li> </ol> <div class="MsoNormal" style="margin: 0in 0in 0pt; mso-layout-grid-align: none;" align="justify"><span style="font-size: 10pt; font-family: 'Courier New';">Getting good counsel from wise and trusted friends and colleagues is one thing. But talking to too many people about your fears is another thing. It could backfire. If you keep on talking about your fear of making the wrong decision, you will lose the support of others. And if you talk about your fear of certain people in the workplace, it could get hack to them in a way you wouldn&rsquo;t like. Besides that, the more you talk about your fear, the more life you give it. Instead, tell yourself that you have the knowledge, wisdom, and confidence to make good decisions. And the more you affirm thos kinds of things, the more you&rsquo;ll be that way. If you&rsquo;re going to he an effective leader you must he decisive. In fact, about 2000 years ago, in the Book of James, we are told &ldquo;A doubtful mind is as unsettled as a wave of the sea that is driven and tossed by the wind. People like that should not expect to receive anything from the Lord. They can&rsquo; make up their minds. They waver back and forth in everything they do.&rdquo;</span></div> <div class="MsoNormal" style="margin: 0in 0in 0pt; mso-layout-grid-align: none;" align="justify"><span style="font-size: 10pt; font-family: 'Courier New';"></span>&nbsp;</div> <div class="MsoNormal" style="margin: 0in 0in 0pt; mso-layout-grid-align: none;" align="justify"><span style="font-size: 10pt; font-family: 'Courier New';">After reading the above what other tips would you share with our fellow entrepreneurs and future leaders members of the GoboWeb.com Network?</span></div>GoboWeb.com Network8/29/2019 11:33:15 AMIs it acceptable to be in a relationship with more than one person and when should you say "enough"?https://www.goboweb.com/portals/151/forums/415200820766666/Is_it_acceptable_to_be_in_a_relationship_with_more_than_one_person_and_when_should_you_say_enough<p>If the person you are dating is maintaining romantic relationships with others, he/she disrespects you and makes you feel inferior. Move on, if you compromise and accept the situation, you give up on yourself and your happiness around the corner.</p>GoboWeb.com Network8/28/2019 11:10:09 AM