What do you really want?
It is often generally believed that life is what we make of it, and that is the biggest lie of all time. From ever since I was a teenager I heard from grown people most of them after the age of fifty, all in almost unison, when describing their lives from their relationships to their children or their job situation, they all say "life is what you make of it"; how ironic that is; Sometimes they throw in a little bit of “it could be worst” at the end. I am here to tell you in your face that life is not what you make of it; and here is why!
First of all, from toddler to our teenage years, we are groomed to learn the “to-learns” to interact with other people the “right way” according to our given customs and traditions, some go to public school systems, some go to private and/or religious schools etc., and all of this communities instill in us their respective values that are supposed to be the cornerstones for our development into productive society or community members.
True that, as a human being, in general we need our community support to be able to survive and thrive, and the potential that we could achieve in general is to become someone similar to another someone in the community; as often school children are asked “what are you going to be when you grow up?” and the often-heard response would be such as “when I grow up, I want to be a doctor, I want to be a teacher, I want to be a scientist, I want to be a firefighter, I want to be a police man…” to name a few. So, the young person under the guidance of their loving parents or community as a whole goes through the elementary school, through high school, then onto college. We also know that during the later years of high school, most school system have these professionals called guidance Counselors whose purpose among other things is to advice the teenage student about the potential fields of education the student might be interested in exploring beyond high school. So, those counselors confidently illustrate to the student all the possibilities “out-there” for the student to consider for becoming somebody productive in society. Some community or society have what is often called “rites of passage” which in other word is the standard rituals a young person needs to go through with the help of hand-picked community members to assure that the young person gets exposed to these life “scenarios” so they would know how to behave and how to handle life as their forefathers have handled life in the past.
The big question from me is that, does society simply try to duplicate itself and thus pursues the continuance of the status quo in its efforts to simply navigating through time “as-is”, or is there any other possibilities where the individual can be the self without all the above mentioned societal rigorous training?
Is there a true human out there in the pure sense of the word as it is supposed to have been designed for, or, are we all trained living entities that just go through what is called “life” according to what our parents or society have planned for us? What is a real human? if you are reading this, I am asking you the question! Are you a real human? Or you are merely a combination of the “living” entity molded in the image of your community or society predefined characters?
Consider this: Is this a chicken or it’s a Turkey? I was in a tropical country a couple of months ago and observed a very interesting thing; a village farmer has been given a turkey egg as a gift from her neighbor, instead of boiling the egg then eat it, she decided she could add that turkey egg to the eggs under her hen chicken has started to incubate. I guess to the hen, an extra egg didn’t make a difference and mostly a bigger extra egg did not matter neither; so the hen protected all the eggs through the gestation period and they all hatched. She had 5 chicks and one turkey chicks she raised them together but unfortunately the five chicks of her own did not survive pas the first two weeks, they all died and the only surviving chick is the turkey chick which grew, and got bigger than the hen-the-mother. Now this turkey would not leave her mother’ sight and because she is now bigger than her mother, now she began behaving like the protector of the two; when other animal-pets of the compound attempt to come close to steal their food, the mother calmly continues picking the ground while this young turkey would chase the intruder-pet away; she did this with such ferocity. Although this young turkey has not yet laid any egg of her own, (no male turkey around), she developed a motherly instinct that propels her to want to protect her “hen mother”.
Is this turkey a chicken or is she a turkey? Whichever answer you give is true as from the outside as we see the turkey because we know what a turkey looks like, we say yep, it is a turkey, but from the turkey point of view, she is a chicken as she was hatched by a chicken who fed it, protected it till maturity; she behaves like a chicken as that’s all she knows. So, which one matters most, what she thinks she is or what we the outside world think she is?
The answer is life is NOT what you make of it but rather what you think of it. So if you do not like your life, change the way you think of your life.